I’m in a long-term, open relationship and looking for a flirtatious e-mail friendship on the side. I'm looking for someone who is single or in an open relationship. I'm not trying to be judgmental but I don't want to help someone cheat on a significant other.
My boyfriend is my primary partner, so I’m not looking for someone else to fall in love with—rather, a friend who shares some of my interests and enjoys e-mail. I’d like to start platonically and see where things go.
Right now I’m not interested in meeting anyone in person. I might be at some point—maybe in a few months after I deal with some time-consuming, stressful changes in my life. I’m also fine with corresponding with someone who lives so far away that we might never meet in person. I don’t like traveling often so I’m not looking for a long-distance relationship that would involve lots of in-person visits.
I like to get to know people gradually, and I tend to like people to whom the phrase “what you see is what you get” doesn’t apply. With both dating and friendship, I like earning knowledge about a person and having him/her earn my secrets.
Here are a few more things to help you figure out whether we’re compatible:
I’m compassionate, creative, patient, and affectionate.
I like to think of myself as intellectual, but I dropped out of grad school, often put books aside after the first 50 pages, and enjoy trashy reality shows. Few things make me happier than a picture of a really cute fluffy animal. I giggle when I hear the word “tweet” as a verb (for humans, not birds).
I spend too much time thinking about the meaning of life, the universe, and everything—all the Big Questions. I’d like to say that I can discuss these things in great detail but I’ve forgotten so much of the philosophy I learned. (If this paragraph sounds way too intense or boring, don’t worry: despite my serious side, I can be very silly and can easily alternate between existentialism and paper airplanes.)
I’m an agnostic—not an atheist, and the difference is important. I like learning about various religions, including “alternative” ones. I don’t care what your religious/spiritual views are as long as you don’t openly mock others’ beliefs.
I’m interested in politics but more into the principles and ideologies than the details of what Senator So-and-So said about such-and-such bill. I’m a libertarian and would like to meet another one but won’t necessarily rule out people of lesser ideologies.
A few more things:
White picket fences scare me. Lava lamps mesmerize me. Parades perplex me. Music energizes me. Blind patriotism worries me. Autumn uplifts me. Arguing exhausts me. Bright colors dazzle me. Bluntness offends me. Football confuses me. Snow delights me. Classical music bores me. My aversion to classical music embarrasses me. Loyalty impresses me. People who can’t keep secrets exasperate me. Celebrity worship mystifies me. Meditation soothes me. Attempts to control people anger me. Big cities entice me. Quantum physics intrigues me. Maps baffle me.
I tend to relate to people who have faced serious obstacles.
I’d like to find someone who can make me laugh; is kind, empathetic, patient, and even-tempered; is curious about many things; and has political views that are not drastically different from mine.